Be More Interested & Stay Curious. (018)

Be Interested Instead of Trying To Be Interesting.

What’s up everyone, hope you had an incredible Sunday!

I dished out a challenge to my student-athletes this past week, you want to hear it?

Here’s the inside scoop. I asked my student-athletes to pause, think, and have an awareness moment. Are you just trying to be “tight”, “cool”, or “interesting” so that other people think you are cool? Are the things you’re doing solely for external approval or are they something you would be proud of?

I tossed a challenge out there. For the upcoming week, the challenge was to get more curious. Specifically, TO BE INTERESTED INSTEAD OF TRYING TO BE INTERESTING.

Instead of trying to be cool to your friends, teammates, or a girl you took out on a date, the challenge was could you be more genuinely curious. The art, practice, and skill of being more interested.

Think about it for a second.

The difference between being interested and being interesting.

Showing interest in what your friends, teammates, parents, co-workers, partner, or date have to say. Listening to their stories and experiences with genuine curiosity. Compared to just attempting to tell the best stories that are all about you.

Having your sights only set on being interesting is a tough path to go down. Only doing things so others will think you are cool puts a lot of your self-worth into other people’s hands. Yes, you want to be accepted by the team or your group of friends, I understand that. Being accepted by the tribe is only human. But it becomes a slippery slope when the weight of your identity is all in the external world.

The magic in the challenge is getting more curious. It is a daily deposit into one of the most important things in your entire life, deep meaningful connections.

Being interesting is a byproduct of genuine interest in others and engaging in activities that fuel your soul and make you feel fulfilled.

1. Where can you be more “interested” this week?

2. What’s the one thing you are most curious about right now?

3. Reflecting on the past week, are there moments where you were focused on “being more interesting” than being interested?

THE CHALLENGE: Be Interested, Get Curious.

Get curious, make eye contact, care, ask great questions, and listen. You might surprise yourself. If you do, let me know!

Curiosity is a superpower and there is no way you will change my mind. There is so much untapped magic and energy in being curious. I appreciate you so much for checking out the past 18 days of the Daily Deposit Newsletter. It is only the beginning!

Wishing you all love and consistency as you start the 3rd week of February. If you loved this newsletter please make sure you reply via email to let me know, share it with someone who means a lot to you, and subscribe.

Keep Killin it and making every day the best day of the year until tomorrow…

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